B: Are you seeing someone right now?
E: No, no. No one right now.
B: Any particular person you’re interested in?
E: Particular? No, not really. I always seem to have a few people in mind but rarely does one person jump out at me. I think that’s how it is with everyone though, don’t you think?
B: Yeah, definitely. It’s like you can’t be certain which person is the one you really have feelings for.
E: Exactly. I think, as humans, we have this expectation of falling in love; seeing the person across the room and knowing they are exactly who you are supposed to be with. We expect this to happen to each and every one of us, so when you are only slightly interested in someone, you tend to be distant, waiting for that moment either with that person or with another person that comes along.
B: Do you think that will ever happen?
E: For me personally, or everyone? I guess either way the answer is the same. I don’t know. Deep down we all believe that it will but there are some that accept reality as it is and abandon the idea or settle for feelings of comfort as opposed to love. I would be content if it happened and I wouldn’t be heartbroken if it didn’t.
B: Would you settle for someone instead?
E: Maybe I would, but it wouldn’t really be “settling”. It would be more of a mutual understanding of each other maybe with similarities that allow us to get along and grow together. The love would grow as opposed to being instant. I would be happy with that, and I think others would be as well. That is why people continue to date and experiment with other people as it is all in attempts to find that match to grow with as an alternative to the love stories and the ideals that are thrust upon us in other means.
B: That still sounds like a love story to me.
E: Yeah, it is, isn’t it.
B: It seems that more and more people are searching for the idea you just described, the perfect best friend to become a lover, as opposed to the across the room, one look love. I don’t think it makes our society any less romantic because of the change in the idea, but it is certainly a more realistic situation.
E: Now that I think of it, it isn’t any more realistic than the one look love, but is now what people have geared their romantic lives towards finding. This isn’t a bad thing though. As our society evolves, so do our ideals.
B: What if that ideal is never reached though? What if, say, you never find that person to grow with? People don’t stay together because they aren’t with the right person that connects with them, but this could be because their ideal person is nonexistent.
E: For me, if I end up a tired old lonely hag, I would be okay with that. And I agree, maybe the reason I wouldn’t end up with someone is because my expectations of that person are so high or out-of-this-world, but that is part of the learning curve. If a person is afraid of being alone when they are older, they must learn to accept the differences of their partner and work through them in a different way, which is all part of the growing process.
B: What you are saying is that we should continue to date other people in search of our ideal relationship, whether we’ll find it or not, as it will lead toward a better understanding of our own self.
E: Yes, that’s exactly it.
B: Awesome. Dinner tomorrow night?